WHAT IS EMDR FOR ADOLESCENTS?
If you feel bad, it probably has something to do with something that has happened to you. It may be related to an accident, an assault, bullying, a fire, or something more horrible. Maybe it happened only once, but it may have lasted for months or even years. When you see that kind of stuff, it can change the way you are. What happened, for example, can pass and repeat in a loop in your mind like a movie or else you do not want anything or maybe you can not sleep anymore. You can also get very nervous or have trouble concentrating.
Many young people do not understand why they suddenly start reacting quite differently from before. In fact, it comes from the memories of the serious things that have happened to them. And terrible impressions, horrible thoughts that go with it. Fortunately, there is something that can help them quickly. It's called EMDR.
Faster than you think...
EMDR, meaning "desensitization and reprocessing through eye movements", is a form of therapy for children, adolescents and adults who have experienced one or more painful experiences when they have experienced problems psychological. Scientists believe that in these cases, memories of painful experiences are not stored as they should be in memory. When the EMDR has corrected this, the problems that brought you here will diminish or disappear.
The nice thing about EMDR is that you'll see improvements quickly. If you have had only one bad experience, you will probably have finished the therapy earlier than someone who has been threatened or abused for longer. But even in these cases, EMDR is very useful.
Liza (17 years old):
"When I started, I had nightmares. They looked so real that it was as if I was still being abused. I had trouble sleeping and I could not concentrate during the day, so my classroom work went completely into spin as well. I reproached myself for sexual abuse. I thought it was like a punishment for something wrong that I had to do before. Now, when I think I feel responsible for my cousin's actions, it makes me angry. I know that I am worth as much as everyone, and that I deserve respect, too. The nightmares are gone. I sleep better and it works well in school too because I am much more fit. At first, I found it a little strange, these movements with eyes. But, just see where I am now. I have much more confidence in myself and I am no longer afraid that it will happen to me again. "
First, the therapist will ask you to tell him what happened to you, and to block the narrative on "the image" that is the hardest to look at for you. Then both of you will find a way so that you do not feel as badly each time you think about these difficult things. It works like this: while you focus on "the image in your mind", what it makes you think and what it makes you feel in the present, the therapist will ask you to do, at the same time, another thing that has nothing to do with it. This will be one of three things:
* or you follow his fingers with your eyes as he makes them come and go before your eyes;
* or you tap into the hands of the therapist (or it is he who types in yours;
* or you hold `` buzzers in each hand
Regularly, the therapist will ask you what you notice and what changes. It can be images, thoughts, emotions, but also physical sensations: tensions, pain. Sometimes things appear that you do not want to talk about or are afraid to say. Do not worry, you do not have to. The therapy will continue until you are no longer affected at all by memories of the painful experience you have experienced.
My brain keeps on working after the EMDR session...
Do not be surprised if you think more than usual about this (or these) painful experiences or things related to these experiences during the time you are in therapy: the mechanism of your brain's information processing activated, and this mechanism does not stop when you leave the therapist's office. You may have a little anxiety or a little nervousness; fortunately, it disappears on average within three days of a therapy session. And it is also possible that you do not experience anything like it.
"When I started eye movements, immediately, lots of stuff arrived: images, ideas, feelings. Sometimes it was irrelevant. There were lots of things going on. But the therapist guides you very well: when you stop the pats or the movements of eyes, you just say what you feel, what changes or what passes you by the head. At first I thought you had to stay on the first image or make it come back, but there is no need to control or stay on something. That's why it's really a therapy apart. It goes on by itself. You just have to have the guts to focus on yourself. That's all. "
I thought to myself: too weird, this thing!
"The first time was really difficult because I did not know what to expect. We explained some stuff to you at the start, but it was still a bit vague. I said to myself: too weird, this thing! Oh, and then good! But in any case, it will not help me.
I was also very afraid of being obliged to talk to someone about what had happened to me because I had never told anyone before. The first step is to learn to trust your therapist and try to be comfortable. That way you can concentrate and the therapy works better. EMDR is very different from so-called speech therapies, because talking, it helps you on one side, but what you have experienced is no less painful. The good thing about this therapy is that we are working on its bad memories, and it really helps to move forward. I did not need to talk much during the therapy, and it suited me. I was treated what happened to me, little by little, until everything was settled. It was really hard to concentrate on a memory I had always tried to avoid. But we start to think differently and as the painful feelings change and disappear, I was less and less afraid, I felt less and less tense and guilty. Today, I can think about it , but it doesn't disturb me anymore! "
YOU HAVE MORE QUESTIONS ?
You can ask any questions you want to your therapist, it will be his/her pleasure to answer them all.